Like Usher’s Confessions Part 1 & Part 2
I have quite a few confessions of my own…
Well, as you know from my last post I confessed I was still in love with my ex-bf. How did I find that out? We talked last week. Not just a hey, how you doing talking… I mean we talked til he had to go to work the next morning. He didn’t sleep.
I can tell you right now that my mind has relinquished all rights I had as a girlfriend concerning him. I know eventually my heart will follow suit.
So, the conversation well first we were texting. Oh I did tell him I have an extensive question to ask him and wanted to know what time he needed to be at work. He said 6am and I said oh forget it. He pressed the issue so…
I texted him: A friend and I were talking and he was asking me what I thought of him. I told him and I asked him the same question about me. He said, You never give up and I see you happily married. [Cute huh? :), I digress] What do you think I should work on as a person?
HE FREAKS OUT!!! He said: Uhm, if you’re asking me advice about guys trying to date you and guys that you want to date/like. I can’t… maybe its selfish but you wouldn’t appreciate it if I did that to you. Sorry.
Uhm. No! We’re not even together. Ask me advice on other girls I don’t care. It would also solidify in my brain that we are no longer together and it would aid in me getting over you even faster! And I said FRIEND not dating prospect!
He apologized and gave me some answer like oh you’re really loyal to your family… crap like that.
By this time it was 11pm and I decided to call because this conversation could have been over a long time ago had we just talked about it.
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I mentioned something about the future of us being over.
He said I shouldn’t say things like that because I don’t know what God’s will is.
How could you say something like that when you’re with someone else?!?!
Stutters….I don’t know… I really don’t know.
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I mentioned J’s present to me.. the cutest panda bears EVER. I love pandas anyway. It was a mini stuffed animal and a keychain panda. I told the ex-bf. Oh yeah, I want to use the panda keychain but I don’t want it to get dirty…
Wait, who gave you the panda keychain?
Oh a friend for my birthday….
[I mentioned my birthday a few times and it wasn’t acknowledged not that I was hoping he would but by the way he was sounding in our conversation his mind was moving a million miles an hour trying to figure out the things I was saying…and uhm, isn’t that a boyfriend question? Who gave you the panda keychain….just wondering]
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I also told him I was sending back his gifts. Specifically, the one-year anniversary 2ct sterling silver bracelet he gave me. He said he can see why he would want to although he doesn’t really want me to send it back. I also let him know I haven’t used any of his gifts. They aren’t hiding but they are most definitely not being used. I also told him the panda bear, named Bam-Bam, he gave me was actually on my bed that night. He said where has it been? On the floor. He will be back on the floor after tonight again. I don’t even know why he’s on my bed. SILENCE.
Oh and I will be returning your HS class ring. I’ve been waiting for you to ask for it back but I’m tired of waiting. Why would I ask for it back its a gift. OH OH NO NO NO. it’s not a gift. Don’t lie. This symbolized me being yours. I was your girlfriend it was also a promise of the future. Your HS class ring today meant an engagement ring in our future. SILENCE
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So, why couldn’t you give me advice on guys?
Because it’s weird…I still think… stutter stutter
What?! You still “own” me?!
well YEAH I mean its hard for me to even think of you with other guys/dating other guys, etc.
Oh no no you have to fix that. You say you want to be friends. You need to fix the way you think because friends are able to give advice…
SILENCE
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We also talked about true/real love. He told me about his friends that were together, broke up, eventually got married and now they’re fine…
He asked, How do you know?
Obviously, your friends had true love. They broke up for a reason but one loved the other enough to forgive them and overlook it and start over again. Now, they’re together-married.
BUT “true” love could be one-sided. My friend Ben would gladly take his ex-gf back-he was thinking marriage with this girl. But she wouldn’t take him back-ever. Obviously, Ben had true love but she didn’t.
Yeah…yeah…true
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Around 6am he fell asleep on me and I let him. I was on the phone just thinking of the conversation and wondering how since HE broke up with me how HE doesn’t sound like he’s even ok… I’m fine. I’m living life and moving on.
So 30minutes later he awakened suddenly. I’m so sorry. I’m sorry I fell asleep. Why are you freaking out? Its totally ok… Because it’s supposed to be the other way around. Uhm, no.. lol